How To Sing Better For Guys Part 1
Okay, welcome back, Aaron here from Superior Singing Method. I'm in Northern Vancouver right now in the rainforest. Right behind me you'll see what famous here is the Capilano Suspension Bridge.
Here, I want to talk about, this is still on the psychology of being singer and I want to a little bit about, I'm calling this video, The Psychology of Being a Singer: What Do You Want?
I want to start off with a quote by a guy named George Washington Carver. It says, "Where there's no vision, there's no hope." I'm going to come back to that idea in a second.
So, what do you want? It seems like a really simple question. I ask my clients this all the time, singing clients, coaching clients all the time. What do you want? Most people can kind of vaguely give me an idea what they want. "Oh, I kind of want this." "I kind of want that." Or, "I don't know. I've never really thought about it. Nobody's really asked me that question."
I found that actually, it's difficult for people to get really clear about what it is that they want. And sometimes, it's actually hard to admit what you want because our dreams to us, they are so precious that they seem almost fragile. Some things we'll be able to admit, no problem.
For me, it wasn't a problem to admit that I want to be a singer, I want to sing, I want to do that. But there's some other things that are more difficult for me to admit because I know I was afraid to admit that, "Oh, I'd like to be actor," or "I'd like to be a life coach." Those seemed a little more precious and I was more scared that people would laugh at me or say "You can't do that," or "That's too hard," or "You don't have what it takes," or that kind of thing so it became a little more difficult to get clear about what I want or admit that I was clear about what I want because of ridicule or what people might say.
But one of the principles here is that the more clear we can get about what it is that we want, the more likely that thing is to come to pass. When we get something that's very actionable like“What can I do? How can I take this hope and this dream or whatever this thing is and having a singing career, or having this business or whatever it is?”
If I could pull it out of the future and out of this dream and out of this hope and out of this wish upon a star kind of thing and take it out of the future, kill the dream, I know it sounds weird, but kill the dream by transforming it into a project and pulling it out of the future and putting it into my day and be, like "Okay. It's actionable. What would I have to do today in order for this thing to start coming to pass?"
The other principle here is the idea of having a goal. When we have a clear-cut goal, there's something that it does to us. It invigorates us in a way that gets us on the path toward doing it.
I'm writing this book right now, The Psychology of Being a Singer. When I put the date down and I put it up on that wall and I started telling people, "Hey, I'm doing this thing," it invigorated me. The goal did something to me. Of course I want to reach this goal. June 24th is when I'm going to be done writing it. Not releasing it but done writing it. But even if I don't reach that goal which I planned to, it's more about what the goal is doing to me and doing for me day to day, getting me excited about making this thing happen.
So, what's your vision? What is it that you want? We all have visions. Some of us have a vision to not have a vision and to stay foggy and get unclear so that we don't have to have the accountability of having something.
I want to go back to that original quote that I said about hope. I think hope is a beautiful thing when it's the type of hope that's a disposition toward possibility, a disposition toward opportunity. I'm hopeful, it changes me and I'm just like, "No. This is going to happen. It helps me to see possibilities."
But as long as hope is, "Oh, I hope this is going to happen," "I wish this would happen," "I have a dream for this to happen," that's the type of thing that never actually comes to pass. But when you get a really clear-cut vision, a really clear-cut goal and you write it down and you start moving toward that goal, and you get a hope that is that disposition of possibility, not, "Oh, I hope this happen someday," that's when thing begin to start changing.
So what is it that you want? What's your vision? The more clear-cut you can get, the more actionable you can get, the more likely it's going to come to pass.
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How To Sing Better Part 2
Hey, Aaron here from Superior Singing Method, and I’m still in Vancouver, this will actually be the last video that I’m doing here in Vancouver. If you look just behind me, you’ll see some people walking on the new cliff walk it’s just suspended to the rocks, another little attraction here. Singing for beginners.
Learn to sing better for guys. Right now I’m still in the series about the psychology of being a singer, and this is all in conjunction with the book that I’m writing right now. Right now, this video I’m going to call ‘What A Racket’, so I want to talk a little bit about rackets and this is just going to be a quick five or six minute video or whatever so this is a much deeper issue, so in the chapter it’ll explain a lot more but I want to at least touch it here to help you kind of get an idea of another way to get unstuck in your life and move toward your goals, toward your visions, toward your dream. How can i sing better?
First of all, racket simply is just the stories we make up about ourselves and the world around us that is in competition with our vision and I’ll come back to that in a second. So it’s stories we make up about ourself that’s in competition with the things that we want to do, like, “I’m not good enough” or “This will never work” or that kind of stuff, it’s not necessarily true. It’s a story that we make up about ourself or about our circumstances that’s in competition with getting the things that we want in life.
When you think of racket, you think of like in the 1920s, a racket would look like a regular restaurant up front, but in the back there is always prostitution, gambling, and alcohol and all that stuff so that’s why they call it a racket. It looks perfectly like a legitimate upfront but in the back there is all this illicit operations going on, and that’s kind of what happens, we do it ourself in our own lives.
When we say something like, for a singer for instance, would he say “Oh it’s nearly impossible to break into that industry.” That is just a story that you believe, that’s affecting you a certain way, that’s why we call it a racket, it seems like a legitimate complaint, “Oh this” but there is all this stuff going on in the background, there is a reason why we use these rackets, and why we use these complaints in order to keep us stuck on purpose. Now I know that sounds a little crazy but let’s just break it down really quick.
Learn how to sing better. With a racket it always starts with some form of complaint, and a complaint is basically a declaration of powerlessness. “Oh this happened”, or “I can’t do this” or “The economy is like this or that”, it’s basically setting yourself up in a powerless position. So it always starts with that complaint and the second part of a racket is that there is some type of behavior associated with that, so with that particular one say it’s impossible to break into that industry, maybe you feel fatigue, or for me maybe overwhelmed or inaction. So there is some type of feeling that comes along with that complaint.
Then the third part of it, there is always some payoff that we’re getting out of using these complaints. A payoff for me if I were to have my complaint is I wouldn’t have to work hard toward my vision, I have an excuse not to pursue it, I don’t have to go after something and experience any type of failure, I don’t have to look like a failure, I don’t have to look dumb, I don’t have to be ashamed, there is all these things that we are getting out of using these complaints that we don’t realize what’s going on.
Become a better singer. The fourth part is that there is a cost to all this and the costs are major. If I don’t pursue my dreams the costs are: I don’t ever accomplish my dreams, I have less passion and less life in my own life, there is all kinds of cost. I don’t ever get to experience the things that I really want to experience in life, all the joys and the ups and downs of really going after and pursuing my dream. How do I sing better?
So you see it’s more complex than just “Hey here is the complaint that I have” and that’s it. Tips to sing better. There’s much more going on in the background and our mind that we’re saying. So, when you have a complaint, what’s good about knowing what rackets you have, because we all have a bunch of rackets, knowing the rackets you have helps you make a more authentic decision. Vocal lessons. When I say, “Oh it’s impossible to break into that industry” I think to myself, if I know that’s a racket, I can make a more authentic decision, I could choose to believe that or I could choose to say “No I’m going to go after it anyway”. Learn how to sing.
My question is what complaints do you have?
What complaints can you get rid of and say I’m not going to have this complaint anymore. There is an improv game called “New Choice”, where you go up and you perform some scene on the teacher and you make a choice about a character, and the teacher keeps going “New choice” and then you do something else and she goes “New choice” and you do something else.
I would say right now, for whatever complaint you have right now, what new choice can you make, say I’m not going to choose this complaint anymore. How to sing. I’m going to choose action and moving toward my vision rather than this complaint, I’m going to make a new choice.
So that’s a little tidbit on rackets, hopefully that’s helpful. If you click the link below you can get my number one favorite vocal exercise or if you click right here and that’s where you can find Superior Singing Method and all the how-to sing type of vocal exercises and courses to help you reach that dream of singing. So that’s it for me here in Vancouver, I hope you’ve enjoyed these videos, I’m Aaron and from Superior Singing Method.